dealing with anger

As an Alliologist, you will spot similarities with budhism, especially in controlling your emotions. The reason for this is that Alliology is born from bhudist thought.

a good thing to learn is in dealing with anger, i found this great analogy for handling anger, annoyance, anyway...

this is from another blog of all things.

from the blog titled "What a Buddhist Monk Taught Me About Blogging"

"If your house is on fire, the most urgent thing to do is to go back and try to put out the fire, not to run after the person you believe to be the arsonist. If you run after the person you suspect has burned your house, your house will burn down while you are chasing him or her. That is not wise. You must go back and put the fire out. So when you are angry, if you continue to interact with or argue with the other person, if you try to punish her, you are acting exactly like someone who runs after the arsonist while everything goes up in flames"

a problem with not running after the person who has "set your house on fire" is that you usually don't have the foresight or even the time to see your anger for what it is. but is you can stop it allows your brain to catch up with what is happening.

I find that once I recognise i am "being angry" and that it is just an emotion (chemically controlled or not as the case may be) or if i notice myself becoming upset. suddenly a perspective view prevails. I must admit though I am far from mastering it so people who know me will say

"Allie isn't that calm!!"

but we are all still learning.

one way I like to consider anger or feelings of offense, upset etc, is that they are a part of life, it wouldn't be healthy if you never became angry but allowing youself time to consider what is causing the anger will give you more peace.

peace out